I wanted to change the name of my blog to “Surviving Motherhood”, which I still think should be the title of the book I want to write about motherhood—once I have some TIME!…. But anyway, I didn’t change the name, cause as it turns out there is a mother out there who already created that blog, except she promotes herself to tired moms, and tries to convince them that everything is going to be ok cause God loves them!!! She goes and speaks at events and stuff—convincing these ladies not to despair, cause God is always there. UHHHHHHH….. is he comin’ over to pick up all these toys, vacuum, steam mop the floors, do a few loads of laundry and pick up more toys???? That’s what I thought.
I wonder how many tired moms buy into that…. whatever! Don’t get me wrong, I believe in God… but I’m also realistic.
If I ever DO write my book, it will have important info for anyone thinking of becoming a mom. The stuff that the “What to Expect” books definitely don’t tell you! FOR EXAMPLE…. No one tells you that you can kiss alone time good bye (pretty much). Forget about going to the bathroom in peace, and start coming to terms with the fact that you will eat your baby’s crumbs after he snatches that sandwich away from you (and you give it up to him without an argument, because you’re just happy that he’s eating SOMETHING). No one tells you that kids have this extra sense to catch you when you finallyyyyyy sit down, and ask for milk, or show you that they need a diaper change, or pull something off the counter…. etc.
Motherhood is HARD BUSINESS. It’s not for everyone… and the sooner society starts telling the TRUTH about it, instead of just publicizing all the precious moments… I’m pretty certain we will have less abused kids in the world. Motherhood is NOT for selfish people, cause really— you can’t tape your child to the wall, and watch your TV show in peace. That girl wasn’t crazy, she just WENT crazy cause she wasn’t ready to be a mom. Motherhood is constantly giving giving giving, and the truth is some women are just not ready– or don’t even have the ability to do that.
Bottom line – there needs to be a checklist a woman must look at before thinking of motherhood. If you do NOT check each and every single box, you’re definitely not ready.